Sunday, February 23, 2020

What Coaching is & The Reasons You Need a Coach

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When we hear the word ‘coach’, the first thing that comes to mind is probably a sport coach - someone who guides or teaches a person or a team at a particular sport. Very occasionally, coaching may mean the act of providing guidance or giving special classes in sports, a school subject, or a work-related activity. It’s the most common definition of coaching term being used and widely accepted. However, this time, in defining coaching, I would like to refer to International Coach Federation (ICF), a US based coach certification body.  ICF defines coaching as partnering with clients in a thought-provoking and creative process that inspires them to maximize their personal and professional potential.
You may be wondering whether there is any other coaching certification body other than ICF, that I mentioned earlier. As a matter of fact, there are four International Coach Certification Bodies that are well-known these days, which include:
- Worldwide Association of Business Coaches (WABC) based in Canada
- International Coach Federation (ICF) based in the US
- International Association of Coaching (IAC) based in the US
- European Mentoring and Coaching Council (EMCC) based in Belgium

People often get mixed up between the term ‘coaching’ and ‘mentoring’.  Hence, I think it’s necessary to revisit the difference between coaching and mentoring.  From ICF website, a mentor is an expert who provides wisdom and guidance based on his or her own experience. Thus, mentoring may include advising, counseling and coaching. On the other hand, coaching process does not include advising or counseling. Instead, it focuses on individuals or groups setting and reaching their own objectives.  Based on the above statement mentoring session can include coaching but not the other way around. 
On coaching session, a coach should not give any advice or guidance. Any action should come from coachee.  No one will feel happy when they are told what to do. Thus, actions that come from coachee himself is likely to create higher ownership and commitment. If there is a behavior change, the change will sustain longer. To support coachee to come up with action, coach roles are to actively listen and ask powerful questions to seek for clarity, insight, possibility, blind spot that eventually results in action and commitment from coachee.
The foundation of good coaching relationship is trust that leads to openness.  Professional certified coach is bound to Ethics Code, one of which is confidentiality. Hence, it’s important to ensure that your coach is a certified coach.  The certification could come from any of the above certification bodies that I mentioned earlier.  There are also independent coaching training providers who provide certification but in general, certificates issued by international coach certification bodies have better credibility.
What are the benefits a coachee can get from coaching sessions? If you search on google, the search result will come up with a long list of benefits. Coupled with my experience as a coach and coachee, below are condensed list of the benefits that you will get from a coaching session:
       Heightened self-awareness and self-regulation
Before starting the session, coach usually will ask coachee to fill in a series of question about him/herself.  The idea is for coach to know coachee better and subsequently helps coachee to know about him/herself better.  At a later stage through coaching session, coachee will be able to identify his/her emotion and be responsible of his/her action.  Impacts of self-awareness and self-regulation are confidence, openness to changes and gain trustworthiness.
       Increased levels of motivation and happiness
In coaching session, coach will help you to find your true motivation, an internal motivation that linked to self-improvement rather than only external motivation that other people will see. Motivation will give you strength when things get tough and give you perseverance in the face of adversity. Knowing your internal motivation will lead you to find your happiness and feeling of fulfillment in your life.
       Establish and act towards achieving goals
Through thought-provoking process during the coaching session, coachee will come up with series of action to achieve his/her goals.  Before ending the coaching session, coach will ensure that coachee has the commitment to make action into reality.  During the series of coaching session, coach will follow up on the action plan, to check on the progress before continuing to others topic.  It’s helpful to have someone to remind you on things that you should do in the midst of your busy mind and help you to keep track of your action towards your goals.
       Improved performance
When people look for a coach, they look for solution to their problem. On the process of finding the solution, coach will help you have clearer vision of what you want, keep on your priority, challenge you and hold you accountable for your actions.  All of these will improve your performance as you walk the path to your success to become a better person.
       Safe Place to Gain Perspective
Do you ever feel afraid to look bad or someone else will find the fault in you? Sometimes it is hard for us to admit our fear and weakness because most of us would like to appear near perfect or have less weakness.  A coach will help us to acknowledge our fear and our weakness. A coach will also help us to overcome it.  A coach will help us to look at things from a different perspective that we may feel afraid to look at or different angle that we miss. As a human being, we have our blind spot, to have someone helping us with no judgement and self-interest will give us a safe place to gain perspective.
After finishing coaching session, I always ask feedback from my coachee. It is for me to improve myself and also to understand how they feel about the coaching session, whether they get the benefits, whether they gain something, whether they feel the change.
Below are some of the feedbacks I got from my coachee:
“Coach helped me to achieve my goals and gave questions that pushed me to find the answer on my own. Now I am able to manage my time better and define my priority.”
“Coach is able to help me see myself clearly, now I’m more confident to make my own decision.”
“Coach helps me to explore and expand myself.  I come up with my own ideas to improve myself.” 
Having seen the benefits of coaching, I view it as an investment for life.  Many successful people claim that the most important investment is the investment made on yourself. Thus, ask yourself this question: how do you want to improve your life? If the answer is one of the benefits mentioned above, then it’s time for you to start your journey with coaching. Happy coaching.
---YK---

Monday, February 17, 2020

Fine Today

We will find a way
To be honest make no mistake
Sometimes I pray
Tell me how to make you stay
And you always going to be the one for me
Though we'll be fine today
Have a drink for the ol' time
Perfect time to say
"You are my happiness"
And you always going to be the one for me
There were times when it rains
Just the thing kept me sane
It's too much for a little time of fame
But you saved the day
Yes, you saved the day
You always going to be the one for me
Where to find you again?
There's no one seems to care
It's too much for the average man to stay
But you saved the day
Yes you saved the day
And you always going to be the one for me
Source: Musixmatch
Songwriters: Ardhito Pramono